CulturallyOurs Embrace JOMO Instead Of FOMO In Your Life

Why JOMO Is The New FOMO In Lifestyle Trends

06.03.19
CulturallyOurs Embrace JOMO Instead Of FOMO In Your Life

Why is joy of missing out slowly replacing the fear of missing out?

According to a recent survey on LinkedIn, 70% of employees admit that when they take a vacation, they don’t disconnect from work. Instead checking email via their phones or taking their laptop along is the norm. After all, businesses spend millions to bombard us daily with clever language and beautiful images, all designed to reach us on an emotional level, to stimulate a craving for the latest and greatest, and to make us feel that we must have a product right this second. It is called emotional connection and emotionally connecting buying.

Additionally, the reach of social media enables us to be ‘connected 24/7’. And in this hyper-connected society, we are presented with so many opportunities to constantly be doing something – to connect online, to keep up with social media, to attend social events, watch parties, live streaming, sporting activities, and webinars. We can learn new things for free, meet new people online, virtual network, and do whatever our hearts desire, including things we didn’t even know we wanted to do.

And caught up in all this connectedness, we feel like we have to post, tweet, share everything that we are doing as and when we are doing it because yesterday is considered old news, right? Social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram personify FOMO. Our news feeds are filled with status updates, photos, memes, and the latest breaking news. With just a tap or a swipe, we have the power to stimulates a dopamine hit for the receiver. We become addicted to the likes, the knowing, and the busyness, so we go back for more and more and more. Minutes and hours can slip by unnoticed while we hunch over our smartphones and laptops, afraid we’ll miss out on something. It is undeniable that the tech industry has contributed heavily to the rise of fear of missing out(FOMO), but at least now some companies are acknowledging the need for change.

For example, when Google CEO Sundar Pichai took the stage at Google’s recent developer conference, he did so with the words “Joy of Missing Out” projected behind him. He then announced a “digital wellbeing” initiative that introduced several tools to support more mindful habits. For example a dashboard that tracks how much time you spend on various apps, recommended breaks from digital binges, and even batches notifications–to discourage our response to every single message. Apple soon followed suit with their own initiatives and features and the concept of controlled digital diet was born.

These are great ideas. But of course, in the end it’s up to you to make a change. If you want to achieve the balance, peace of mind, and the joy that results with being truly present in the moment and enjoying without the fear of missing out.CulturallyOurs Embrace JOMO Instead Of FOMO In Your LifeSo, why and how did we become so addicted to FOMO?

Our heavy reliance on social media for connection is developing an arms-length style of communication. We substitute conversations, phone calls, and letters for status updates, post comments, and instant messages. This fragmented, indirect form of communication is dissatisfying to our innate human need to connect with others. It’s why we can spend all day on social media, texting, or emailing, yet still feel lonely.

Another driver of FOMO is the pressure to be seen in the right places with the right people. Whether it’s from a sense of duty or striving to get ahead, we feel obliged to attend certain events for work colleagues, acquaintances, family, and friends. After all we are all human and humans, by nature, crave social interaction. We love to feel part of something. It’s in our nature to be tribal and we’re wired for connection. But participating in an activity merely because we’re afraid of missing out misses the point. We need real connection, of the type and variety that fulfills us.

Here are some benefits of having a JOMO mindset

Given that FOMO can be exhausting and overwhelming, it makes sense that FOMO’s counterpart — JOMO (joy of missing out) — has recently emerged. In stark contrast to FOMO, JOMO encourages us to embrace the pleasure of choosing what we want to do (or not do), in a way that engages and fulfills us. JOMO is about understanding yourself, your needs, and desires, and choosing to live in a way that energizes you.

# JOMO gives you more time

Moving away from a life filled with over-commitments mean more time. Instead of spending our free moments consumed by the drama of social media, email, and text messages, what if we chose to disconnect and spend time doing things we are otherwise too busy for like exercise, play, self-care, or just experiencing life.

# JOMO encourages spontaneity

Freeing yourself up from unwanted commitments and online addictions means more space and time for spontaneity, unplanned moments, and the surprise of chance encounters. Spend a few moments and note down all that you love to do but feel you don’t really have time for. Use that to do something spontaneous the next time you feel overwhelmed.

#3 JOMO encourages natural body rhythms

It is a proven fact that excess technology dulls the senses. We all know the perils of starting at the screen too long, or first thing in the morning or last thing at night. Instead focus on activities that go with the natural body rhythm. Also use JOMO to give into the signals from your mind, body and soul. When you feel like you need to disconnect and slow down, do just that. Don’t ignore the signs and signals your body is trying to give you.

#4 JOMO encourages us to slowing down

JOMO lets you do things at your own pace. To be here and now. To experience life at its purest essence. Seeing the sun glinting off the morning dew. Hearing the tinkling notes of laughter. Feeling the warm sunlight on your skin and the grass between your toes. Smelling freshly brewed coffee. Experiencing the world moving beneath and around you. These are the things that make us marvel at the world and its true aliveness.

This slower pace also enhances our creativity. Have you noticed you get the best ideas when showering, daydreaming, or walking in nature? That is because we are more creative in the quiet spaces, when our minds are free from distraction, hurry, thinking, and obligation.

Here are some ways you can embrace the Joy of Missing Out

At this point, JOMO sounds like a welcome relief from the franticness of FOMO, right? So how can we fully embrace the joy of missing out in our lives such that it becomes second nature.

#1 Disconnect from devices

As a first step, remove distractions. Put down your smart phone, close your laptop, and step away from your devices. These electronic distractions will prevent you from determining if you truly wish to engage in an activity.

#2 Take time to reflect

Create spaces of unstructured time in your week to reflect. Perhaps start with an hour, half a day, or a weekend. When there’s nothing to do, your quiet inner voice can be heard. You get a greater sense of which activities you enjoy (and why). This is a clue in determining what fills you up and what drains you.

#3 Reconnect with yourself and others

Rather than reconnecting on the Internet, start by conversing with a friend or family member. Look them in the eye. Treat them as the most important thing in the world at that moment. Notice how you feel. Or reconnect to yourself by indulging your love of photography, music, cooking, gardening, writing, hiking, or surfing.

#5 Make it a habit

A great way to decide if an activity is worth doing is to imagine your self doing it over and over again. Will you remember that time you accepted a Facebook invitation out of obligation to an acquaintance, or will you remember the time you spent precious moments laughing with your loved ones at dinner instead? Or will you remember sending that email at 2.00pm or walking up with the rising sun and breathing in a fresh new day.CulturallyOurs Embrace JOMO Instead Of FOMO In Your LifeWhen we’re constantly plugged in, we fool ourselves into believing that the devices to which we’re so attached will deliver something more urgent and appealing than the activity before us. Notifications quickly draw us away from the present moment, and fill us with surges of ecstasy, envy, anxiety, and excitement. These feelings are often fleeting, making it all too easy to become dependent on attaining them regularly. Even the negative feelings that may arise become an invitation to seek relief, comfort, and connection.

But by embracing the joy of missing out, we make room for all the benefits that come from spending time with ourselves and the inner wholeness we contain. We create space to keep up with the things we wish we had more time for. We confront ourselves in new ways, and unearth the talents, fears, joys, and quirks that lie beneath the surface.

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